Grieving can take unexpected forms, as one musicologist discovered after the death of her father. Initially finding solace in distractions such as podcasts and television, she eventually returned to music, recognizing its transformative power. Her journey involved confronting anger and rediscovering joy through playfulness and connection with her father's musical preferences.

For many, music serves as an emotional anchor, but for this individual, it became a source of tension following her father’s passing. Once passionate about classical trombone and academic research, she found herself unable to engage with melodies that once defined her life. Instead, she turned to noise-filled distractions like thrillers and chatter, seeking temporary relief from overwhelming sorrow. Days blended together as she lost herself in streaming services, anything to avoid facing the void left by her father’s absence.

Before his death, however, her relationship with music had already begun to deteriorate. Buried under layers of academic theory and societal expectations, the joy of music-making faded into a haze. This disconnection deepened during her grieving period when even attending concerts felt pointless. At one event at the Royal Albert Hall, she questioned the purpose of refined performances amidst audiences adhering strictly to cultural norms. Yet, over time, she realized that certain pieces could evoke memories of her father, offering comfort rather than distress.

The turning point came years later when she sat down at a piano and played a simple Chopin prelude. Accompanied only by her puppy's playful noises, this act marked a fresh start. Without fear of judgment or perfection, she allowed herself to explore music freely, embracing imperfection and rediscovering its magic. Playing reminded her of tactile sensations—the keys beneath her fingers, the scent of printed notes—and how deeply music intertwines with human experience.

This reconnection taught her that relationships evolve perpetually, especially those shaped by loss. By letting go of rigid rules, she opened herself up to new possibilities, hoping someday these experiences would lead her toward freedom. Through play and vulnerability, she learned to embrace music not merely as structure but as something intangible yet profoundly impactful.