I always dreamt of immersing myself in British culture, and after years of anticipation, I finally took the plunge. Living in the UK for four years provided me with invaluable experiences that shaped my perspective on life, work, and identity. Yet, returning to the US revealed a deeper appreciation for home while leaving a part of my heart across the Atlantic.

Embrace the Unfamiliar: How Life Overseas Shaped My American Perspective

The Allure of British Heritage

Since childhood, the allure of British heritage captivated me. One summer day, at an estate sale, my mother and I stumbled upon a wooden chest filled with photo albums from a 1950s British adventure. The images of Windsor Castle and the Royal Guard left an indelible mark on my imagination. Fast forward to my early 30s, when personal loss and dissatisfaction with my career propelled me toward this long-held dream. After submitting a thesis proposal to the University of Manchester, I embarked on a new chapter.The university’s quaint tea rooms and the slower pace of life in Manchester were enchanting. Academic supervisors encouraged contemplation and travel, fostering a balanced lifestyle that felt refreshing. Extended weekends allowed me to explore Scotland, Wales, and London, enhancing my appreciation for history and nature. This pedestrian-friendly environment contributed significantly to my health, leading to weight loss and improved insulin resistance.

Challenges Amidst Charm

Despite the charm, challenges arose. During a dinner with new acquaintances, one friend’s abrupt question about my ethnicity left me stunned. Their insensitivity regarding Native American culture was disheartening. Conversations often turned critical, with some Europeans expressing negative views about Americans. In an online expat group, I learned that hate crimes against Americans were not uncommon. Bureaucratic inefficiencies further strained daily life, from delayed public services to healthcare issues. During a drug shortage, my heart medication was cut off until an emergency room visit highlighted the urgency.

A Return Home

When the pandemic disrupted university operations, I grew weary of isolation and bureaucratic hurdles. Homesickness set in, prompting my return to the US. Reverse culture shock was immediate. Grocery stores seemed overwhelming, and the lack of outdoor walking options was striking. Yet, over time, I came to appreciate the simplicity and efficiency of American life. Access to quality medical care and streamlined administrative processes made daily tasks easier. Despite these benefits, my mind frequently drifts back to cherished memories of the Cornish coast, Trafalgar Square, and vibrant Manchester.

Home Is Where the Heart Is

Ultimately, living in the UK offered a unique perspective on life and identity. While I prefer the familiarity and convenience of the US, the experience abroad remains etched in my heart. Home, it turns out, is not just a place but a collection of moments and connections that span continents.