After a significant breakup, I embarked on an unconventional journey to find my ideal partner. What started as a personal list of 100 qualities led me to meet the person who would become my husband. This is the story of how that list shaped my future and brought me to where I am today.

Discovering True Love Through Precision and Faith

The Turning Point After a Breakup

In the fall of 2008, at the age of 23, I found myself in a moment of profound reflection. My relationship had reached its end, and I was left questioning what I truly wanted in a partner. While many of my peers were focusing on their academic and professional futures, I decided to take a different path. On a windy November afternoon, I sat in my small Indiana apartment and began writing down every quality I desired in my future spouse.This list wasn’t just a casual brainstorm; it was a detailed manifesto of 100 attributes. From physical traits like green eyes and a height that could reach the top kitchen shelf, to deeper values such as a strong faith and the ability to play an instrument. Each item reflected not only my preferences but also my hopes for a fulfilling partnership. Little did I know, this exercise would set the stage for an extraordinary encounter.

A Divine Encounter at Bible Study

Three months later, during a Bible study session, the conversation unexpectedly turned to dating. Feeling bold, I shared my list with the group. The room erupted in laughter and polite nods, but one voice stood out. A woman I hadn’t met before exclaimed that I had described her brother almost perfectly. Her enthusiasm was infectious, and she began listing off his qualities—each one aligning with my list.Her brother, standing at 6'4", with green eyes, a talent for piano, and a deep-rooted faith, seemed like the embodiment of my dreams. As we exchanged contact information, I couldn’t help but feel a surge of excitement. Was it possible that this stranger’s brother could be the one?

The First Connection

Within days, I received an email from him. Our initial phone call lasted three hours, filled with laughter and shared stories. It was clear from the start that there was a special connection between us. Our first date in downtown Indianapolis only solidified this feeling. Driving home that night, I called my best friend, barely containing my excitement. “This is it,” I declared. “He’s the one.”As our relationship blossomed over the following months, I eventually shared the entire list with him. While he didn’t check every single box, the alignment was remarkable. His presence in my life felt like destiny, and I knew I had found someone who embodied the values and qualities I cherished most.

A Lifetime Together

Two years after our first meeting, I stood beside him at the altar, with his sister—who had introduced us—by my side as my bridesmaid. Fifteen years later, we are raising four vibrant children together, navigating both the joys and challenges of family life. Through every moment, I have never doubted my decision or the path that led me to him.Today, our home is filled with laughter, music, and love. Whether it’s sharing a playful wink across the room or hearing our youngest giggle at the piano, each day reminds me of the incredible journey that began with a simple list. Sometimes, being precise about what you want can lead you exactly where you’re meant to be.